If you’ve read my blog before or are familiar with either personal affirmations or “The Secret”, then you know that I’ve been a big believer of things like vision boards in the past. In fact, I have about two hanging in my room. However, in honor of my focus on personal confidence in 2014, I have decided to create something new that is inspired by the vision board concept. I call it the confidence web.
You see, I have several cork boards that I’ve had hanging over my desk in my room, a place where I can post reminder, story ideas, pictures, etc. As I was updating it for the new year, I was struck with inspiration for my web, wanting to post several pictures of people and statements that inspire confidence in me on one of the boards. I started with 5 pictures that each represent a different area of confidence.
The first picture, which will act as an anchor for the web is a photo of a state called “Expansion” by the artist Paige Bradley. The statue is of a naked, meditating woman with cracks through out her body that reveal bleeding light of the sun. This statue struck me when I first saw it a few years ago on Tumblr and ever since I have used it as inspiration and a reminder of my inner power. I truly believe that inner strength is the most important thing for me to remember since you can’t have confidence or strength in anything else in life until you have that.
The second photo is of the burlesque dancer Dita Von Tease. I was first introduced to her image when I saw a photo of her at a fashion show where she had dropped her umbrella. Two gentlemen immediately rushed over to pick up the umbrella for her. I couldn’t help, but think to myself, “Damn, I wish guys would treat me like that. I wish that I could inspire such desire.” After more research, I discovered more about Von Tease and about the sexual confidence she possesses in herself, something that I have been struggling to work on for many years due to my small figure. Her appearance on my board is to remind myself to channel her sexual confidence.
The next picture is of Scarlett Johansson. Not only is she beautiful, but she doesn’t allow her looks to define her in an industry that’s obsessed with appearance. She goes full out in her performances as an actress, showing her diversity from the badass assassin Black Widow to playing a down to earth, no make-up zoo keeper in We Bought a Zoo. For me, she inspires a confidence in my career, something I’ve been relatively been strong in, but it’s always good to remember when I know I will be getting a lot of refusals.
The fourth picture in the web is of Jennifer Lawrence. While she has a bit more success career wise that Scarlett Johansson (she won an Oscar for her role in Silver Lining’s Playbook) I admire her not just for her career, but how she doesn’t compromise her somewhat spastic personality for the press. In interviews, she is entertaining, funny, sometimes inappropriate, and practically obsessed with food. In fact, she began acting in order to overcome her social anxiety and now it appears that she has taken what others would probably consider awkward and has embraced it, making her my inspiration for social confidence.
The last photo is of Malala Yousafzai. For those who have yet to hear her story, one that I’m sure has echoed throughout the media in the last year, Yousafzai is a young girl from Pakistan who advocated for the education of girls due to her love of learning. Living in a Taliban ruled area of the middle eastern nation, her ideas were considered radical and resulted in the attack on her life a year ago. This attack left her with a gun shot wound to the head and the new title as an icon for girls’ rights around the world. Since her recovery, she has published a memoir of her life under Taliban rule, spoken to the U.N. for her 16th birthday, and was even a nominee for the Nobel Peace Prize making her one of the youngest, if not the youngest, nominees in the prize’s history. She serves as an inspiration that it doesn’t matter who your are or where you are or how old, you can always make a difference in the world.
With the base of these five photos, I have linked them together with twine I had around my room to show that it’s a connection of all these things that I hope to use to build myself. I plan to continue to build this web with other inspiring figures and images so every time I look up from my desk, I’ll be able to remind myself of what I’m made of.
I hope that this web inspires you readers to create your own web and find what inspires you. Build and define yourself, don’t allow everyone else to.